We start worrying about how we would look to other people if we finally decided to choose the “impractical”. Instead of giving ourselves, our very much GROWN assed-selves, permission to pursue the exciting life we want, we start to look for outside permission. If we’re not careful, this asking for permission bullshit can go on for years. For me, it well into my late 30’s.
We get to the point when we’re unhappy and we tell ourselves, “I need a life coach to help me figure out what I want to do with my life.” But wait. We already know what we want to do with our lives! We’ve been clear about that since graham crackers and milk, remember? “I need a life coach” is code for “I’m scared to pursue this.” It’s also code for: feeling insecure, fearing rejection, fear of looking stupid.
These self-limited beliefs are programmed from childhood. Maybe when we were kids and we spoke about our dreams to adults, we were laughed at or ignored. For me, it seemed my plans were being dismissed. When I would showoff my homemade portfolio, another career choice, specifically becoming a doctor, were pointed out to me as the only option.
As adults, we carry these emotional blocks, but we don’t want to deal with them because we’ve decided to take pride pills. We convince ourselves that we are “too grown to be affected by childhood baggage; I can do what I want now.” But we’re not doing what we want. We have settled and suppressed all our beautiful visions to avoid being rejected. I’ll raise my hand and say I was embarrassed to admit that I was grown, with the freedom to make my own decisions, still being affected by the reactions I got as a child when I voiced “what I wanted to be when I grow up.”
Stay tuned for Round 3!
If none of this made sense, go back and read round 1. Also, comment below and let me know what you think of this series.