I grew up being told that to be successful takes a long time. I was also told that becoming rich takes a long time or that simply making more money takes a long time. While I never clarified what a “long time” actually meant, hearing those beliefs would be the basis for many of my decisions from adolescence through adulthood. I formed a paradigm that trickled down into other areas of my life. For example, when I started my business, I told myself, “Ok. This is going to take a really long time to get off the ground, so just get used to working hard.” I held onto that idea so tight that I stopped my pursuit, moved onto something else, only to return to my original desire. Can you relate?!
These beliefs handed to us about how long things are supposed to take hold us back. Those beliefs hold us back from pursuing what we want in life. Listen, whether you decide to pursue what you want, time is going to pass whether you take advantage of it or not. We need to stop putting ourselves in a box by setting a time for how long a goal will take to achieve. When we do that, we set ourselves up to allow more flexibility in our lives. So what if it takes seven years for you to see the profit you want in your business. Does it have to take seven years? Absolutely not! Being flexible will leave room for a creative way to see profit in less than a year!
Time also keeps up in relationships that no longer serve us. Have you ever heard someone say, “We have been together so long, I feel like I have to make it work” or “I’ve invested time into this relationship; I can’t just quit.” Then how many times have you heard, or maybe you’ve said these phrases yourself, “It’s going to take a while for me to trust someone new” or “Dating again is going to be hard because I haven’t done it in a while.” To know where those ideas come from, it takes some serious self-reflection.
Having a tight grip on time keeps us in a place of settling. We settle in a career because we think too much time has passed for us to get a new one! We settle in relationships because we have told ourselves too much time has passed to love someone else. When we want our own business, we settle in a job because we tell ourselves it’s too late. We are here to be fulfilled in all areas of our lives! We weren’t here to carry time as a heavy weight. Time does not have a grip on us. How do we know this? Because time is not asking for our permission to pass; it just does!
Time does not have a grip on us, so let’s release our grip on it.